#1 2009-11-28 05:17:36

OMEGA17848

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Registered: 2009-09-24

Posts: 1

Violence is NOT ON

With regard to video 1663:
I DO NOT want to see violence against women on this site. I don't care if the woman appears to 'enjoy' being slapped around and throttled. I DO NOT and it's not what I paid a subscription to see. If I wanted to watch that kind of sick stuff, I would go elsewhere. If you intend showing this kind of thing then at least grant me (and others no doubt) the courtesy of WARNING us beforehand. You have spoiled what was otherwise a very unique and beautiful site by allowing this to be posted.

Last edited by OMEGA17848 (2009-11-28 05:21:11)

aliceinbaland

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Registered: 2009-11-27

Posts: 2

Re: Violence is NOT ON

I think it's pretty clear from the thumbnail that she is into, at the very least, strangulation. I think it's pretty easy to avoid that; also, there are people who think masturbating, no matter how you do it, is sick.  If the people on BA had people telling them that the way they masturbate is "sick," then we wouldn't have any wonderful videos to watch. Some people think what she/they (I don't know the gender of her partner) did was beautiful.  Just as you have access to videos that show what YOU want (non-violent masturbation), there are people who enjoy her video. I think you will have more of an impact if you simply politely request a small note at the beginning of the video, saying that the following contains play-violence and erotic strangulation, etc.

thundr6

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Registered: 2009-05-06

Posts: 19

Re: Violence is NOT ON

My browser has an X in the top RIGHT corner. I click it if there's something I don't want to view.

359

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Registered: 2008-12-09

Posts: 2

Re: Violence is NOT ON

Well OMEGA17848 as a woman who derives great pleasure from consensual slapping I have now been enlightened as to my true state of being, that of a sick and twisted pervert. I will immediately alter my sexuality (and I am sure all other women with similar interests will join me) to cater to your taste, sensibilities and judgment.

I would however be interested in seeing a discussion of the appropriateness of trigger warnings on videos that may cause pain to abuse/rape survivors. Any opinions? I don't like the segregation of videos but I do like to see attempts to create safe spaces even if that is never fully possible.

Edit to add that the thumbnail for the video explicitly showed that choking would occur so why watch it if you know you'll be offended. Surely that's warning enough.

Last edited by 359 (2009-11-29 12:13:24)

uri

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Registered: 2004-12-30

Posts: 609

Re: Violence is NOT ON

omega17848, you don’t like to watch sadism-masochism practices, same as I do, it’s not your (my) thing but it’s their thing. That’s it, so don’t watch it.

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Long live the hedonism, –enjoy your sexual pleasure!

ngaio

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Registered: 2009-02-25

Posts: 19

Re: Violence is NOT ON

As a female who also enjoys consensual slapping with my partner (both giving AND taking) I find your opinion, Omega, offensive, small minded and annoying. Therefore I shall ignore it and continue on my merry way.

I think 259 brings up an interesting point, however, about trigger warnings. I'm usually against the idea of putting things into categories, particularly sexual behaviour. That being said, I might not object to the idea of a small warning when it comes to something that could potentially be triggering. Though, of course, where would you draw the line?

The thumbnail would have been enough of a warning to me but then maybe not everyone would clue into what it was about so quickly?

ashmedi1

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From: Canada - South of North 49th

Registered: 2008-05-01

Posts: 924

Re: Violence is NOT ON

The thumbnail would have been enough of a warning to me but then maybe not everyone would clue into what it was about so quickly?

I am not taking a position here, I'll just sit on the fence

However as a vision impaired voyeur, the thumbnail is much too small to show me anything, and while I did see a hand on or around her throat, I thought I saw HER hand on her throat, and assumed it was in a caressing manner, The actual video did shock me since I had no warning or idea what was coming.

nuff said .....

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Ashmedi is an ancient god of Rage and Lust
Rage doesn't fit me, but Lust fits to a T 

coeurl14

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Registered: 2009-06-08

Posts: 12

Re: Violence is NOT ON

On XP/Mozilla anyway, hit ctl + to magnify those thumbnails so you can examine them for pain or paraphilia. Or right-click-download them and blow them up to grainy full-screen. But do your own ratings system, please!

As the MPAA existentially testifies, rating and tagging is an open-ended quagmire for administrators. It turns them into moral bureaucrats and winds up trying to please everyone in the worst way. I'm against it, and for the way our current selectors pick videos.

The less there is of moral or aesthetic stacking on sites, the better they work.

I hope lots more kinks appear. Anyone into knife play?

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Edit to add link to parallel thread on the other forum
http://beautifulagony.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=1280

Last edited by coeurl14 (2009-12-06 20:13:58)

mariem

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Registered: 2010-12-13

Posts: 261

Re: Violence is NOT ON

Its not that uncommon