#1 2006-05-05 14:37:12

Calvert

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From: Somewhere in Upstate NY

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A laughing matter

Relatively new here and have just been browsing through the wonderful agonees and I've noticed what I considered to be an unexpected trend. It seems that a significant number of the ladies uncontrollably laugh or giggle while they're coming.

Now, I've always been of the opinion that sex is funny. We look silly, we act silly and we still keep doing it over and over and over again no matter how ridiculous it is. Sex and humor are very much related and a healthy sense of humor is often a sign of a healthy libido. Despite all of this, very few of the people I've been with laugh when they come. Perhaps I just need to go out with funnier people. So, I was wondering, what makes us laugh in this exceptionally vulnerable moment? Is it the ridiculousness of the whole experience? Is the fact that the agonees are being filmed and knowing that they're being filmed suddenly hit them at this point and they see themselves as being silly? Is the pleasure that they're feeling as they come overwhelm them so much that everything starts to go off at once? Is it the "I can't believe I'm doing this" factor? I don't know but I think it would be fun to find out.

Shinogi

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From: Norway

Registered: 2006-05-02

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Re: A laughing matter

Laughing isn't just a reaction to something funny - laughing is a reaction to having fun. You can laugh from sheer happiness, from sheer euphoria.

What's a bit harder to explain are those who cry when they come. I must say I find that a bit disconcerting, because it gives me the impression that I've done something I shouldn't have. I like the laughers. Sex is supposed to be fun. As long as you're having fun, there's no such thing as bad sex.

elfman11

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Registered: 2006-02-20

Posts: 97

Re: A laughing matter

Relatively new here and have just been browsing through the wonderful agonees and I've noticed what I considered to be an unexpected trend. It seems that a significant number of the ladies uncontrollably laugh or giggle while they're coming.

Now, I've always been of the opinion that sex is funny. We look silly, we act silly and we still keep doing it over and over and over again no matter how ridiculous it is. Sex and humor are very much related and a healthy sense of humor is often a sign of a healthy libido. Despite all of this, very few of the people I've been with laugh when they come. Perhaps I just need to go out with funnier people. So, I was wondering, what makes us laugh in this exceptionally vulnerable moment? Is it the ridiculousness of the whole experience? Is the fact that the agonees are being filmed and knowing that they're being filmed suddenly hit them at this point and they see themselves as being silly? Is the pleasure that they're feeling as they come overwhelm them so much that everything starts to go off at once? Is it the "I can't believe I'm doing this" factor? I don't know but I think it would be fun to find out.

Welcome Calvert and good point well made. This has often perplexed me as well.  Lord knows how many times I have orgasmed in the last 40 years but I can't remember ever laughing!

Laughing isn't just a reaction to something funny - laughing is a reaction to having fun. You can laugh from sheer happiness, from sheer euphoria.

What's a bit harder to explain are those who cry when they come. I must say I find that a bit disconcerting, because it gives me the impression that I've done something I shouldn't have. I like the laughers. Sex is supposed to be fun. As long as you're having fun, there's no such thing as bad sex.

Welcome also Shinogi.  Forgive me but I can't agree with you on this one.  I find it intensly beautiful when a woman cries after orgasm.  It indicates that her climax was on a spiritual level and not just a physical one.  I think it is probably the most meaningful and sincere way a person can tell you that they love you and I happily confess to sharing a tear or two with a few former girlfriends.

Elfman

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Shinogi

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Re: A laughing matter

Welcome also Shinogi.  Forgive me but I can't agree with you on this one.  I find it intensly beautiful when a woman cries after orgasm.  It indicates that her climax was on a spiritual level and not just a physical one.  I think it is probably the most meaningful and sincere way a person can tell you that they love you and I happily confess to sharing a tear or two with a few former girlfriends.

Elfman

That's one of the things I'm talking about. It makes me feel as if she's never experienced anything like it before, and if I don't feel the same way I feel uncomfortable. If we're together for keeps I would welcome such reactions, but if I don't want that deep a relationship, I don't want to create that deep a raction either. This is especially the case if I've only recently met this woman, and it's one of the first times we have sex.

It's happened to me once that a girl cried after she came, and it was one of the first times we had sex. I was afraid that maybe I ripped open old wounds, as I knew she had experienced rape in her early teens. When it happened later I knew what it meant, but there's something about tears which is intrinsically depressing no matter how spiritual the situation. Unless they're accompanied by grins and laughter, that is.

But in any case, I don't want her to feel it any more "special" than I feel it. As a comparison, I'm pretty sure a girl would feel rather uncumfy if I read her a mushy poem on the first date. It's like, "whoa there, we just got started - take it down a notch."

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Shinogi

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Re: A laughing matter

As for laughing, it's contagious - and I have shared many post-coital laughs - or rather giggles to be precice. I've never experienced full-out laughter, and don't suspect it would happen very often either. But little laughs and giggles, absolutely.

The first time a woman managed to make me cum from a BJ (for the longest time I wasn't able to), I laughed. I was very happy, as you can imagine.

Tears are also contagious but I've never felt like crying after sex. And laughter is always a happy/gleeful thing. The trick is to make her laugh after sex, and not when you're dropping your pants!

Iso

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Re: A laughing matter

The trick is to make her laugh after sex, and not when you're dropping your pants!

It's okay if they laugh when I'm dropping your pants.  I know I'm funny looking.  It's when they point and laugh that I can't stand it.

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Shinogi

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From: Norway

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Re: A laughing matter

And when will women learn that an erect penis is not cute! Babies are cute. But this fellah is all grown up!

elfman11

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Re: A laughing matter

That's one of the things I'm talking about. It makes me feel as if she's never experienced anything like it before, and if I don't feel the same way I feel uncomfortable. If we're together for keeps I would welcome such reactions, but if I don't want that deep a relationship, I don't want to create that deep a raction either. This is especially the case if I've only recently met this woman, and it's one of the first times we have sex.

Ah.  Now I see your point.  That's never happened to me.  In the circumstances that I've experienced it the feelings were reciprical.  Yes I can see how that would make you feel uncomfortable.

Elfman.

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Shinogi

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From: Norway

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Re: A laughing matter

That's one of the things I'm talking about. It makes me feel as if she's never experienced anything like it before, and if I don't feel the same way I feel uncomfortable. If we're together for keeps I would welcome such reactions, but if I don't want that deep a relationship, I don't want to create that deep a raction either. This is especially the case if I've only recently met this woman, and it's one of the first times we have sex.

Ah.  Now I see your point.  That's never happened to me.  In the circumstances that I've experienced it the feelings were reciprical.  Yes I can see how that would make you feel uncomfortable.

Elfman.

I've only ever seen crying twice, and both times from the same woman. Our relationship did turn into a serious one, though, but the first time she cried after orgasm I was worried I had given her bad flashbacks or something. Turns out she had a great time, and when it happened again I was better prepared. It was the only time we ever managed to climax at the same time, thus making it our only "mutual" experience, and knowing the reason she cried made me happy too. But yeah, the first time I worried. Not just because of the flashback thing, but because we were only recently an item, I was concerned that, "am I going to mess up this woman?"

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Jo

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Re: A laughing matter

That's one of the things I'm talking about. It makes me feel as if she's never experienced anything like it before, and if I don't feel the same way I feel uncomfortable. If we're together for keeps I would welcome such reactions, but if I don't want that deep a relationship, I don't want to create that deep a raction either. This is especially the case if I've only recently met this woman, and it's one of the first times we have sex.

Perhaps she wanted a deeper relationship and was really overwhelmed by her feelings, a feeling you couldn't share as you (like you mention) did not want such a deep involvement?!

I think (some) girls cry when they feel really deep, or like elfman already said, they examine a spiritual level of orgasm.

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