Female orgasm

patrik · 2005-01-23 17:56:49

My experiences with women (five steady girlfriends in 20 years) is that most of them are quite discret when they orgasm. Sometimes you do not even notice it or it takes some time to learn the signs and interpret them right.

My present wife is a bit more open about it. But it tooks several years to get there.

Yet this site is full of women who moan a lot and even throw themselves around in the bed when they reach climax.

My question is: Are they faking it? Or are women more loud and excited when they masturbate than they are when making love?

I know that I am a bit wilder when I masturbate than I am in bed with my wife. Maybee it is easier to let yourself go when you are alone with your fantasies?

I would be very happy if any of the women who watch this site could give me their view on this. Or any man who has good exprerience with women.

Ell · 2005-01-24 03:57:38

I'm almost completely silent when I orgasm through masturbation alone. The excitement is very focussed between mind and clit. When I'm with my sweetheart I'm more "excited" overall in a bodily sense. As far as how noisy, it depends entirely on mood, activity and perhaps level of connection and ranges from the quiet little pleasure sigh orgasms to full on mewling, purring, cooing, giggling, moaning, groaning leading up to sensational noisy orgasms. Sound level isn't related to intensity for me.

As far as are they faking it, if you mean are they faking the sounds of their pleasure? Who knows? Are they exagerating for your viewing pleasure? Is there an undeniable element of performance? Does the idea of performance enhance the agonee's pleasure? Does it affect yours?

patrik · 2005-01-24 08:29:30

Ell,
Thank you for your reply. Frankly my pleasure would be greater if I knew they were not faking it. It is the element of reality that lifts the BA site above ordinary porn sites. The sense that this is for real...

Any more women who want to give their view on this?

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Jo · 2005-01-24 21:40:52

patrik wrote:

I know that I am a bit wilder when I masturbate than I am in bed with my wife. Maybee it is easier to let yourself go when you are alone with your fantasies?

I don´t think that it is easier to let yourself go when you are alone. It´s a question of self-confidence and has nothing to do with a partner. I for myself am louder and wilder WITH a partner than I am alone. When I masturbate and orgasm (sometimes even in a bedroom where other people sleep) I am sure (hopefully?! ), that nobody hears or notices anything...

Also, the wildness and sound has nothing to do with the intensity as Ell already mentionned.

Tex · 2005-01-27 06:09:39

As a child I learned to masturbate in complete silence. ( we had a small house ) I know it's been a struggle to 'open up' to my partner. Still, when I find myself at home, alone I don't have that elaborate of an agony...probably why I never sent one in to BA.

RomanBoy · 2005-01-31 19:45:25

My comments are restricted to female agonees:

I am confident that the great majority of the Agonies are perfectly genuine, there are just a handful that do not seem completly convincing.

I am not at all sure that "...this site is full of women who moan a lot and even throw themselves around in the bed when they reach climax." I think that we see the full range at BA. While allowing that the contributors are somewhat more exhibitionistic than the average population, the collection is pretty representative. In any event, the microphone picks up and amplifies every sound, the girls are probably making rather less noise that it may seem.

To be sure, many women do not vocalise at all, but most do at least a little. If the couple who always seem to be in the next hotel room when I am on a lonely business trip are anthing to go by, some really know how to let go....

kirk · 2005-01-31 20:26:03

I've been married 30 years and my wife was very quite when she climaxed.But as time went on and we got more intimate she got more vocal.She taught me how to touch her and how to give her what she wanted she is pretty vocal especially when she peaks .My first wife was quite but she twitched alot when she masterbated it looked like she was having a siezure.But every one is differnt .I think this site has a good rep of what is going on I'm just glad these young ladies are willing to share

Jo · 2005-01-31 21:38:31

RomanBoy wrote:

In any event, the microphone picks up and amplifies every sound, the girls are probably making rather less noise that it may seem. To be sure, many women do not vocalise at all, but most do at least a little.

Oh yes, and I most like these clips, where the silence doubles the intensity of feeling. Nothing else disturbs (me) more than the sound of some traffic in the background...

ruby · 2005-02-01 06:57:45

according to a sex therapist I know well, energy moves with sound. In other words the more sound that you make the better your orgasm as it encourages you to draw more air into your lungs and therefore pump your blood faster and therefore make you cum harder!

From my own experience I reckon that it really increases my pleasure, although I can only detect a small groan when my boyfriend comes. That is if I can hear him at all, usually I am busy hollering the house down. He is abit embarrassed that I make too much noise I think, but sorta likes it cause it means I am having a good time.

When I masturbate I make much less noise, but am still vocal when I climax. I reckon that it is obvious when some agonies are hamming it up for the camera, but when I did mine you do feel very strange having a camera stuck in your face (even tho you are told to forget about it).

Ok, so it is like no one is watching, but you are fully aware whilst getting down to business that all and sundry is!

Unfortunately the legacy of the moaning, crying, panting porn actress is still going strong- shame really.

In defense of the agonees if they ham it up a little, well thats ok. They are giving you a view of the most intimate thing they ever do.

patrik · 2005-02-01 08:22:41

Ruby,
I understand. I do not mind if they act a little. But I do not like it when the acting is to obvious. A porn movie is very seldom arrousing.

You said that you have done an agony. Which one did you do? I would love to see it, now that I know a bit more about you...

Thank you for sharing this with me and the rest on this forum.

Jo · 2005-02-01 18:22:42

ruby wrote:

according to a sex therapist I know well, energy moves with sound. In other words the more sound that you make the better your orgasm as it encourages you to draw more air into your lungs and therefore pump your blood faster and therefore make you cum harder!

Maybe your friend is right, he seems to know what he´s talking about, but some people love to climax in the total absence of oxygen (e.g. by using a plastic bag or a rope). They say, the absence of oxygen makes you feel your orgasm (and also any other physically sense) much more intense, because you need no energy to breathe...

That´s absolutely not my way of doing so, and also during my civil service in an emergency car we had to cut down one victim of this practice. But it seems to work, I cannot imagine that anybody would do such a dangerous practice if it would not be worth it...

ruby · 2005-02-02 00:41:04

true jo, true! isn't that what mr inxs did?

the therapist was a woman btw...

um, yeah when i have tried to hold my breath when coming it just seems to cut it all off and my body freezes up!

it always betta for me if i breath long and slowly and the orgasm seems to ride the tide of the breath.............. this is very difficult with a partner cause i am always panting quickly.

but by myself, it sure works.

each to their own tho

me is 0081, note my mamma's carpet

patrik · 2005-02-02 08:18:23

So nr 81 has a name - Ruby. And beautiful you are, both the girl and the orgasm. *s*

kirk · 2005-02-02 14:16:41

What a wonderful name for a Beautiful girl and a Beautiful orgasm thank you for sharing both of your Orgasms

syzygy · 2005-02-02 20:28:36

Your intensity is superb, Ruby. I didn't even touch myself and my heart is racing. Bless you for sharing.

ruby · 2005-02-03 00:11:29

ah well- such a nice thing to be able to inspire others

glad that ya'll liked it.

was pretty hard to do, being open and honest and not falling into porn cliché.. but I did enjoy myself obviously!

patrik · 2005-02-03 13:58:19

Ruby,
Please try again. We need more of your kind on the site. an keep on posting your views on the Forum. *s*

Jo · 2005-02-03 20:34:01

patrik wrote:

Ruby,
Please try again. *We* need more of your kind on the site. an keep on posting your views on the Forum. *s*

Patrik, please speak for yourself, not for *all of us*. I am able to spread my opinion by myself, if I like to do so...

patrik · 2005-02-04 08:48:12

True Jo,
I can only speak for myself.

Cindy · 2005-04-30 07:08:49

very inspirational!

tandean · 2005-05-11 13:43:28

I have to say I've found that most women I've been with have been energetic when they orgasm, both physically and vocally

I think the more comfortable you are with your partner allows you to let you body do what it feels is right

But I think more than that it's how far you let desire over take your sense of composure and polite behaviour. If you allow desire and lust to take full control, which is for the best, then orgasms become very intense and powerful.

And on a final note, I'd also like to thank Ruby for her agony, very nice!

Casette · 2005-05-12 12:01:11

patrik, IMHO there´re so many kinds of orgasms as women. I haven´t a huge experience with them in my life (six womes and I´m age 40), but some of them were silent as tombs and other ones scandalous as speakers ...

I think that isn´t question of excitation but situation. One girl was very discret at home, but on a hotel´s room (without neighbors' worry) the window's crystals were trembling with her howlings. Fear to neighbors is a bad aphrodisiac, but too much usual nowadays

JW · 2005-07-15 22:39:09

When I masturbate, ther's a need for an orgasm. As in just whipping one out before jumping into bed, or in the shower before going off to work or watching a clip on BA. Whereas with a partner, there is not only your need to orgasm but also the entire sexual experience, including the events leading up to it, the way he or she looks, smells, tastes, the meal, the seduction (if required), etc. It's much more of a complete experience. But maybe with the contributors to this amazing site, the mere fact that there's someone watching is enough of a turnon that the orgasm becomes more of a complete experience, like with a partner. Either way, I love this site and applaud all the contributors. I'd love to thank a few of them personally, but that's another story.

No1steelerfan · 2005-07-16 11:52:56

JW wrote:

When I masturbate, there's a need for an orgasm. As... in the shower before going off to work

Strange you would mention this. I do this almost every day. But consider I work in an adult sex shop, it is a necessity.

Hank · 2005-07-26 19:42:43

My personal opinion is that sex is very real and as intimate with another person as we can get (outside of some senseless act of violence).

Having said that, I also recognize its essence as a drive by our evolutionary history to replicate our DNA. I believe (and I may be wrong) that sex simply feels good because it is the carrot (or lollipop) at the end of the stick that DNA holds before us. For some, it is a dominating ego trip...for others, it is the "oceanic feeling" of the mystics (and Freud)...for others, it is touching the face of god.

In any case...it IS beautiful and mystical and wonderful and great. I go with the oceanic feeling, myself.

As to noise...I had a lover that made no noise at all, but her nipples became hard when she came. Absolute silence. I also had a lover that screamed so loud and thrashed so much that she bruised me all the time and the neighbors called the cops for the noise.

All good. All good...

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