#1 2005-11-02 18:26:13

PC elmo

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The "female" version of sexual attraction

She's the kind of girl that is so attractive that if I had one night with her, I would only sleep besides her, not have sex. That may sound strange to someone, but I guess some women just radiate a kind of unique quality about them, more than "just" beauty, that words can't describe, and having sex with such a woman would just not beat the idea of laying beside her in bed feeling her skin and watching her sleep. I guess most of you by now must have thought something along the lines of: "But you could do that AND have sex with her in one night". Well, yes, but what if you had to choose? This may just be a sigh from my heart (ok, I'm a romantic), but I'd choose sleeping, not "sleeping" .

Finally a man admitting and standing close to his female part. 288fan, I totally agree to you, I also often have the desire to "just" close my eyes and to feel that there is somewhere beautiful near me. This beauty is not (only) visible for the eyes but much more recognizable for the soul... (I'm also romantic)

Thanks for bringing up this thought!

Ahem, his "female" part, you say?  Now that's interesting.

You may be right, but I prefer to think of such sentiments as something more than gender, or at least outside of it.  You know, the sort of other-worldly experiences for which mere genderness does not allow.  All that "this is the way we tend to think, and there's always room for something more" kind of thing.

High philosophy (take that however you want ) can be fun; and its always interesting to see where a few modest insights pop up in the forum.  I welcome other thoughts along those lines, but, as you can probably tell from how I named this thread, it's actually fascination with the more worldly side of a "female" perspective that inspires me to write.

Regarding the wanting of sexual interaction versus just being close, it's been my experience, and the opinion/observations of the vast majority of those who've spoken to me about it (male and female), that the sexual drive in women is far more intense than in men.

Usually, I hear the male version described as gradually changing in strength, but pretty much constant, and strongest in the immediate presence of "inspiration."  And usually, I hear the female version described as more subject to extremes -- strongest during a sexual encounter, of course, but otherwise mostly on or mostly off.  And when it's on, it can be really on, especially once the woman is sexually "experienced."

In fact, the subject of the transition to first having experienced the enjoyment of sex is what usually leads into this topic.  I think there is a similar change in all humans, like the body now knows what it's been missing, but this change in how we/our bodies view the world usually seems more extreme for women.

Another way of putting this is that women can get very hungry sexually.  I know, men can too, but there's something about acknowledging the very possibility that women can be as interested in sex as men, let alone more, that seems to catch much of the world off guard, turning it on its head or something.  I thought I saw somewhere in the forum a reference to the movie "Eyes Wide Shut," which touches on some of this.  Anyway, well-founded or not, it's a very real claim, and I'd be interested to see what others who frequent these pages -- men and women -- think about it.

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"There is always room for something more."