#1 2017-07-18 22:24:03

UniqueNY

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Submissions from someone who is unable to actually come?

Bobbi (A4000) alluded in part 2 of her confession to the plight of those individuals, mostly female, who simply cannot orgasm. This got me wondering. Suppose such a person submits to BA. Would their submission be accepted? Richard/Steve, is there a policy about this? It doesn't apply to me, I'm just randomly curious.

gideontan1

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Re: Submissions from someone who is unable to actually come?

That's an interesting concept - but how would the video be like? Someone just touches themselves for a few minutes and.. that's it?

_hyperballad_

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Re: Submissions from someone who is unable to actually come?

I think that such a video would be a deeply personal & difficult thing to share... It's a pretty highly loaded issue for so many people, as you said women especially. I think this is a space where folks are trying to make something beautiful & whilst honesty surrounding something like Anorgasmia could be helpful I don't know that the actual visual of seeing someone try to achieve an orgasm & then be unable to would be a particularly positive experience for the contributor or the person watching such content.

_hyperballad_

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Re: Submissions from someone who is unable to actually come?

Many years ago I was creating some films for another project & I was masturbating in the bath on camera. I was unable to experience an orgasm in that particular setting (for various reasons) & the experience was surprisingly upsetting. I had a few cracks at it but I just. couldn't. come. I have a background of no real orgasmic/sexual dysfunction & if I'd had the technical skill set at the time I would have erased that particular chunk of footage whip smart - as it was when I came to upload the footage I had the person I was dealing with delete those scenes from the raw footage.

I didn't want other people seeing me unable to come, I didn't want *anyone* seeing how frustrated I became & it's a degree of vulnerability I'm still not sure I'd be willing to share. It's just too fucking personal.

When people share their sexuality on camera it's already kind of a big deal. Especially when it comes to a real orgasm - it was a huge thing to me that I be authentic & forget the camera as much as I could, I wanted to dismantle the perception of the female orgasm through the lens of pornography. So to share my Agony was as far as I could go, with honesty, at the time - to in turn share a time that I couldn't come, you would be seeing something that literally only 1 or 2 other people in the world have ever seen... Maybe someone out there would be chill with sharing this because it's their truth but from my own point of view I just don't think it's something I could ever do & actually feel good about.

That was a bit of a ramble, but I hope it answers your question.

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