#1 2016-06-12 10:28:52

cheeks

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Registered: 2016-06-12

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Lonely

I've found myself enjoying BA because of the intimacy it brings for me. I'm recently single and really missing the closeness of having a partner, but not quite ready (or even sure) of how to have something casual and fun with someone.

Anyone else lonely? Any tips on combating this type of loneliness?

I do nice things for myself like hot baths, having a massage, spending time with good friends, following my dreams. But it's hard to get past this special kind of ache.

pinkorangered

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Registered: 2016-06-13

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Re: Lonely

Yes! I've been 8 months out of a relationship and the loneliness seems to be intensifying still. Moving on is a process of forgetting, but I don't want to forget. The way she looked at me, the knowing smiles, the annoying middle-of-the-night text pings, finding notes in my sock drawer. I have people to share sex with, but the dirtiest, most intense exchange of bodily fluids can't compare to one warm kiss from the person you love. 

Just keeping occupied helps, but it only puts it off until you're alone again with your memories and regrets.

ziggy

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Registered: 2016-02-26

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Re: Lonely

I found I became much closer with friends of mine after a long-term relationship broke off a few years ago. Now I have friends that I am so close with and I cherish that - perhaps finding intimacy with friends could help stave off the loneliness?

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cheeks

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Re: Lonely

Yes! I've been 8 months out of a relationship and the loneliness seems to be intensifying still. Moving on is a process of forgetting, but I don't want to forget. The way she looked at me, the knowing smiles, the annoying middle-of-the-night text pings, finding notes in my sock drawer. I have people to share sex with, but the dirtiest, most intense exchange of bodily fluids can't compare to one warm kiss from the person you love. 

Just keeping occupied helps, but it only puts it off until you're alone again with your memories and regrets.

Aw, oh yes. Those little things. I can feel your heart ache. I'm sorry that you feel this, but I guess it's all quite beautiful in a way. I also know what you mean about keeping occupied....but there's that part of you that knows the loneliness is waiting.

cheeks

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Registered: 2016-06-12

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Re: Lonely

I found I became much closer with friends of mine after a long-term relationship broke off a few years ago. Now I have friends that I am so close with and I cherish that - perhaps finding intimacy with friends could help stave off the loneliness?

This is lovely, thank you. Even before the end of my long relationship, I'd become closer with particular friends and I feel a love for them like my heart could burst. If I can cherish them even more I think this will certainly help with my loneliness.